So you’ve decided you want to try something different. Maybe it’s a new creative venture? Maybe a new hair style? Start a blog? Anything at all really. But you’re afraid of what other people might think about you? You’re afraid of possibly failing and the embarrassment that might come with it? Maybe you’re afraid your friends and family won’t support you on this new path?
I know how you feel… I’ve felt the same way for awhile now. Always afraid of what people were saying about me. Constantly holding myself back because I didn’t think I was good enough. What would they say if me, the big girl, started to be healthy? Would they say I’m a poser? Would they scoff at my abilities to lose the weight? What would they say to my pursuance of this dream to start a confidence business? Would they say I’m unqualified? Why would anyone listen to her anyways? She’s just a normal girl.
The more and more you put your dreams off though, the more disappointed in yourself you become. You watch as the time flies by and you still have nothing to show. Scared to ever tell anyone your big dreams for fear they would bring you down. I felt this way for so long that I finally had to ask myself these questions:
1) How worth it to you is your happiness?
2) Am I willing to give up my dreams because I’m afraid of others opinions?
3) Does it really matter what they think anyways?
Answer #1: MY HAPPINESS IS SO WORTH IT! If it took kicking all those people to the curb to ensure my daily happiness, I’d do it in a heartbeat. Not because I hate them or anything, but because I am more important than that to me. I have to live with myself every single day – in my head and in my body. And in no situation do I sit back and let others control me. There is so much life to be lived in the short time we have on this planet and I want to LIVE it the best way that I can while making my dreams come true in the process. Absolutely anything is possible if you just believe in yourself.
Answer #2: HECK to the NO! If I kept making decisions in my life based on other people’s opinions, I’d be a much different person today. You see, when I did live life this way, I was an anxious, depressed, and distrusting person. I questioned everyone who came into my life. I never made any friends because I was fearful they wouldn’t like me. I threw pity parties almost daily. I started fights with the friends I did have because I craved any kind of drama. But recently, I had an awakening. I realized that I didn’t want to live this way anymore. I knew my life had more potential than I was allowing myself to have. And OMG I feel so free! I took this codependent girl and released her back into the world with an entirely different prospective. I just DECIDED that I was more deserving than anyone could tell me I am.
Answer #3: Absolutely not. Why would I want someone actively in my life who didn’t support me and my future? Why did I want people who only brought me down to be a part of my life? Why was I keeping in contact with people who only wanted to see me fail in order to make themselves feel better? I discovered that I did these things because I myself felt this way about me. I felt unworthy and these people only validated my feelings. Now, you don’t need to go tell all of these people who do this to you to get lost… Maybe they’re family? Maybe they’re childhood friends? Maybe parting with them only seems drastic? But what I am saying is you need to stop searching for validation from them. They need to stop being the people you go to with your dreams. If you surround yourself with people who will lift you up then there’s only one way you can go. The people’s who’s opinions matter are the ones who are being honest with you for your own good. Honestly, it make take a little while to find these people and that’s okay. It’s better to be alone with only you believing in yourself than to be torn down by others.
No one is more important than you. You are the one living your life and you are the only one who can decide whether or not you’re happy. Be the rockstar in your own world! Because you possess the power to make that happen!
So my question here is, do you need to ask yourself these same questions? Are you letting others opinions stop you from being truly happy?
If the answer is yes, I’m here for you. There is a community that is here for you. There are many people who are here for you. You do not have to grow alone.